Hello Building, Well Done Foundation

I am literally six days away from closing a chapter of my life
One that taught me the true essence and roughness of life
I am no longer referred to as a child, i'm an adult in the making
I come and go as i please, no shouting and debating
Old enough to decide my own destiny
From her apron's stings i've been cut loose, what an epiphany
Wow, how fast time goes by
Not so long ago, was sent to the stores, bread and milk I had to buy
Under her roof i had to behave and acknowledge maturity that lies in her
Now i'm right there, the stress and hardships of being an adult, I have to bare

It's so ironic how I have longed and yearnt for this day
No that it's finally here, I don't want to do as I may
What????? I wanna be a kid again?
I wanna be fed and treated like a child that lacks the ability to make her own decisons?
Nah..... I don't think so..... I don't wana go back there..... I wanna be somewhere.......
I wanna be someone...... I wanna do something..... I gotta get elsewhere.... anywhere....

The calender is being marked down.....
Are my days of relentless and fun getting numbered?????
I don't know..... I don't know what to think...... Am I suppose to think????
Well I don't know because i don't know what this is suppose to feel like
I don't know what life expects of me at this pivotal epic moment in my life.......

But one thing is for sure..................
I have lived the past 19 years of my life with pride and determination
From all that I have went through, I have learnt how to me strong, how to love, how to care and how to be me........
I have learnt to define what's inside me based on who i AM.
Therefore, I say with prestige and a joyous heart that I have lived my teenage days with content and happiness
Everything I have absorbed from them have built my character and made mt the best that I can possibly be.
Although there is still room to grow, but the foundation has been laid and I know that from now on....
Life can only get tougher and better for every obstacle defines the next step in this human race....
We never get there but we must not stop THRIVING to BE THERE

SEX.... Let's talk about it.

So my friend and I were talking about sex yesterday, you know mos, just engaging in the dos and donts of sex. Especially with us black people who were never socialized, taught and exposed to this kind of crucial and important matter.

One thing that stood out for me in the discussion that we had was the matter of people being scared and afraid of making mistakes while in the act because we have this perception that there is no room for studpid mistakes, or weird moments in that department. What we also realized as being on of the fundamental problems that hinder unsatisfactory in the exotic field is the fact that couples do not talk about these things. Women are scared to tell their men how they want to be held, how they want to be kissed, what they want their partner to do to them whilst having sex. I mean, what is the point of having sex for the fun of it if you don't get screwed the way you want to be scrwed?

The silence and fear of engaging with our partners about these kind of things is what leads to the lack of hapiness in most marrainges and unsatifying experiences of love making, of sexual intercourse and of intimacy. We should learn that men are not psychic, they can not always guess if you are enjoying what they are doing to you, they can not always tell if they are satisfying you in that department.

I know some of you are probably thinking of excuses of why you keep quiet.... "Oh he is gonna get offended...His ego is gona be shattered". Stop making excuses for you men, don't under estimate the level of understanding that they are capable of having. If you show your man, and break it down in a way that is aimes at building your relationship, making sex more enjoyable for both of you, then talking about it is MOST DEFINATELY worth it.

Men.... I cry out to you to, you also have needs, tell us women what you want us to do to you, where you want us to touch you, what you want us to improve on cause love making is a two-way street....

Come on black women and black men..... Let's break the traditions that have hindered joy and hapiness in our relationships... Let us show good loving, leave a legacy for our children and generations to follow....